relationship, 1–8, 10–30, 32–39, 41–58, 60, 62–70, 73–75, 77, 80–82, 85, 87–92, 94–99, 101–103, 105–108, 110–112, 114, 116, 118, 121–123, 125–126, 129–131, 133–134, 136–146, 149–153, 155–157, 159, 161–163, 166–169, 171–182, 185–196

renegotiation, 38, 106–107, 119, 137–138, 140–145, 151–152, 173–175, 181–182, 188–189

romance, 1–7, 13–14, 18–19, 21, 25, 32, 35–37, 41, 46, 49, 51, 58–61, 68–70, 75, 82, 105–106, 129, 143–144, 159, 176, 181–182, 185, 188–192

romantic relationships, 1, 4–5, 7, 25, 35–36, 51, 75, 105, 129, 144, 181, 185, 188–189, 192

rules, 1–6, 8, 16–20, 23, 38, 42, 45, 47, 62–64, 66–67, 69–70, 91–92, 94–97, 105–108, 110–114, 116–124, 126–131, 134, 136–140, 142–145, 149–153, 155, 159–171, 173–178, 180–182, 187–191, 193–195

rule negotiations, 126

rule violations, 20, 38, 42, 69, 106, 137, 140, 143, 151, 171, 174

sample, 6, 25–26, 29–33, 35, 65, 69, 77, 120, 134

secondary, 156, 165, 177, 179

self-imposed rules, 111, 119–120, 137, 139, 144, 194

sex, 1–3, 5–26, 30–31, 33, 35, 37–39, 41–51, 53–58, 60–70, 73–85, 87–92, 94–103, 106–108, 110–130, 132, 134–140, 143–146, 149–157, 159–161, 164–171, 174, 176–182, 185–196

sex toys, 159

sexual orientation, 2, 10, 18, 21, 23, 25, 30–31, 33, 37–38, 47, 55–56, 60–61, 64, 69, 75, 77–78, 83–85, 113, 117, 121, 135–136, 145, 191

sexual scripts, 22, 24, 66, 69, 77

sociology, 188

specialness, 2, 5, 13, 16, 25, 38–39, 42, 48–50, 70, 91, 106, 113, 120–123, 125–130, 144–146, 150–151, 159, 176–178, 180–181, 185, 187–188, 190, 193–196

specified fidelity, 37–38, 105–108, 110, 120–123, 126, 129–130, 139, 143, 145, 176, 190–191, 196

STD/STI, 68, 140, 170

strict monogamy, 37, 41–42, 46–50, 53–58, 60, 62–70, 74–75, 91–92, 94–97, 101, 103, 105, 185, 187, 189–192

swinging, 3, 12–13, 15–18, 21, 23, 29–30, 33, 115–116, 126, 128, 145, 149, 162, 189

survey, 9, 12, 18, 25–30, 34–38, 43, 74, 76–80, 82–86, 90, 92–94, 98–99, 102, 107–110, 119, 123, 129, 131–135, 141–143, 146, 152–161, 163–164, 166–167, 172–173, 176–177, 181, 189, 191

threesome, 90–91, 94, 97–98, 110, 115, 157, 165, 193

triad, 16, 157, 168, 179

trust, 19, 50, 59, 90, 136, 140, 153, 167, 194

typology, 1, 36, 189

unallowed behaviors, 133, 141–142

unfaithfulness, 18, 74